How to Have a Fight

By Rebecca Plant

Boardrooms and Bedrooms with Rebecca and Edward Plant

When I realised this episode would fall on Valentine’s Day, I almost changed the topic.

Being the day of all things LOVE, a podcast about How To Have a Successful Fight seemed a bit ill-timed.  

But when I thought more deeply, I decided that the BEST thing I could do for you today was to blow the lid off this topic.

You see fighting can suck so much that it makes love taste like lemons!

And I’m not just talking about yelling matches, big bad barneys or steam-out- the-ears blow-ups. Fighting can present as a disagreement, as one person feeling angry, or — my least favourite — no communication at all and a head buried in the sand.

Which one are you?

Personally, I’m a yeller if I get angry and so is Ed.  It’s kind of the reason we decided to create this framework in the first place.  We didn’t want to be yelling in front of our kids all the time. We didn’t want our anger to spill over to our bedroom.  We didn’t want the anger to get stuck, then come back to bite us another time when we were dealing with a completely separate issue.

While recent research suggests that couples who fight live longer, we know — both from our experience and that of our Powerhouse couples — that fights, if not fully resolved, can create massive tension and dis-ease in your relationship, your business and in your body. Having the tools to navigate a fight is a total gift.

So, in today’s strategy session, Ed and I talk about How to Have a Successful Fight:

  • The 3 steps you need to go through when you are about to, or are in, a fight;
  • Why it’s often so hard to raise the flag to resolve the issue in the first place;
  • The underlying rule to put in place to ensure the fight gets resolved.

Now go play fair… and share the love today.  

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About the Author

Rebecca is the Co-Founder and CEO of The Institute for Couples in Business. Bec is also trusty wife to husband and business partner Ed, and mum to Samuel, 4, and Charles, 2. For the past seven years Bec has been working with business owners, and her Super Powers include making complex problems simple, creating strong connections, and motivating teams by building kick-arse culture. Bec is also author of #1 best-seller Lead-The-Ship and hosts popular podcast Boardrooms & Bedrooms.