Let’s talk about Sex (your business depends on it)

By Rebecca Plant

Isiah McKimmie

Let’s be honest here – talking about things like sex and intimacy can be all a bit uncomfortable for a lot of couples. We get that. But what we also see in our work with couples in business is that the way you relate to one another in the bedroom has big ramifications for how well things go for you in the boardroom (aka your business).

And that’s why today’s episode of Boardrooms and Bedrooms is so necessary. Vital even!

Isiah McKimmie is a sexologist and therapist who works with couples who feel more like housemates/co-workers than lovers, those who have drifted apart, and couples for whom sex is a big fat scary elephant in the room whose presence is felt but not mentioned.

While creating and maintaining intimacy is hard enough for most busy couples, Isiah explains why the challenge is even greater for couples in business who can easily assume that spending lots of time together is enough to nurture that deeper connection. We also delve into the relationship between a power imbalance and sexual desire – this is really interesting to understand – and learn the one thing couples must do to stay on top (pun intended).

In this episode we chat about:

  • Talking about sex for a living.
  • The reasons why couples come to Isiah.
  • Why intimacy is such a challenge for couples in business.
  • Why just spending time together doesn’t create intimacy.
  • What couples need to overcome to correct an imbalance.
  • Why couples reach out for support.
  • Isiah’s message for couples in business who are struggling.
  • An example of one couple in business who were at breaking point.
  • Why the lack of sex in that relationship was causing the wife so much pain.
  • The surprising truth around sex drive in men vs women.
  • The real impact of poor connection on your business.
  • The simple daily act that helped one couple reconnect.
  • Why the tools couples learn in therapy can be better than a vibrator.
  • What is a power imbalance and how does it impact your relationship?
  • The link between withholding sex and the need for more power.
  • Key signs of a power imbalance.
  • Isiah’s advice for addressing a power imbalance.
  • Choosing the right language to broach sensitive subjects.
  • Why making conscious change in your relationship takes strength.
  • The need for external support to overcome major challenges.
  • The one thing couples in business must do to succeed.

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About the Author

Rebecca is the Co-Founder and CEO of The Institute for Couples in Business. Bec is also trusty wife to husband and business partner Ed, and mum to Samuel, 4, and Charles, 2. For the past seven years Bec has been working with business owners, and her Super Powers include making complex problems simple, creating strong connections, and motivating teams by building kick-arse culture. Bec is also author of #1 best-seller Lead-The-Ship and hosts popular podcast Boardrooms & Bedrooms.