Be Like a Journo in your Relationship

By Rebecca Plant

I was at a BBQ the other day and a friend asked me: “Did they teach you how to ask questions at Journo school?”

She’s a new friend, so just becoming familiar with my inquisitive nature.

But the short answer is ‘No’.

They didn’t teach me to ask questions.  What they did do, was teach me the components of what makes a good story.

Then, they left me to use my curiosity to ask whatever questions I need to get the story.

Albert Einstein said, “The important thing is to not stop questioning. Curiosity has its own reason for existing.”

In a partnership, this is a highly important and necessary skill and one where my journo background aids me well.

You see, sometimes, your other half (or your relationship) can look and feel a little like a car crash.  Messed up, out of shape and generally in a bad way.

The thing is, like a car crash, there’s a story that has got them in to that way.

Were they speeding?

Were they texting while driving?

Did someone pull out in front of them and run them off the road?

Did they swerve to miss a little person who ran in front of them and hit a pole?

There is a hundred different reasons as to how that car ended up in that crash.

The same goes for your other half.

There are a hundred different reasons that they have ended up where they are today.  

What was their childhood like?

What stories are they telling themselves in their mind?

How are they being challenged?

What are they feeling right now?

Are they running provider?

Do they deep down feel angry, guilty, sad?

The fact of the matter is, as we tell our clients inside PowerHouse if you want to DEEPEN your relationship and STRENGTHEN your business, you need to be like a journo in relationship.  

There’s two things you need to know about this move though:

  1. However you guys / they are feeling right now is not your fault
  2. Your role is not to push but to challenge to truth.

How your partner feels at any given time is NOT your responsibility.  BUT …

If you want to make faster decisions,

Stay on track more,

Get outcomes more quickly without getting hijacked,

You need to step in to Curiosity, with the right frameworks.

If you’re not sure of the right questions to ask to start the process, reach out and book a 15-minute PowerUp call to see how we can help you get better results.

The ability to use Communication Frameworks that up your Journalistic skills will change every facet of your level of intimacy.

Take care,

Rebecca “Curious as a Cat” Plant

P.S. This just one of the many Frameworks we go deep on with our clients through our coaching program, PowerHouse. If you want to know how we could support you, book a 15-minute chat with me now: https://calendly.com/rebeccaeplant/power-me-call

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About the Author

Rebecca is the Co-Founder and CEO of The Institute for Couples in Business. Bec is also trusty wife to husband and business partner Ed, and mum to Samuel, 4, and Charles, 2. For the past seven years Bec has been working with business owners, and her Super Powers include making complex problems simple, creating strong connections, and motivating teams by building kick-arse culture. Bec is also author of #1 best-seller Lead-The-Ship and hosts popular podcast Boardrooms & Bedrooms.